There is a pathway to living an intentional and fulfilled life. That pathway is defined and executed by you. And it starts by defining the rules to live by.
Life can throw many shades of colours - it is up to you to decipher its meaning and importantly enough, the reason why. We commonly use the phrase "grey area" or "black and white" - but seldom have we thought that life too could be blue, purple or yellow. Well, if you are wondering how - then it's time to unlearn!
Just like any other teacher or mentor, life has its own set of rules to abide by if one is to taste success in all its gloom and glam. The hidden codes of life (a segment I greatly spend time on), possess the gateway to unlocking fulfilment and success.
I'd be lying if I said it's easy to follow and do. However, just like you, I am the product of my daily thoughts, actions and rituals that I consistently perform to enjoy a level of mastery. Let me walk you through some of the life rules to live by that I follow.
Rule #1: Face your fears
Adversity is the birthplace of champions. Uncertainty is the gateway to discovering and understanding the "other side" of you. Therein lies great power, discipline, commitment and persuasiveness. It is okay not to know everything because the secret lies in surrendering to the flow of life to unleash the magic in you. Many a time, fear is a catalyst for courage. Furthermore, fear can also be a result of overthinking. And of course, the lessons of life are embedded in one's mistakes, not successes.
Discipline is the mother of greatness.
Rule #2: Believe in yourself
If not you, then who? Stop wasting your time seeking validation and compliments. Self-validation is an enabler of self-esteem, self-respect and self-belief. You are your greatest fan. You are the ONLY one on this planet that has the inept skills and talent that is unique to you. Nobody knows you better than you. You have the cheat code to program yourself into whatever you aspire to be! Wake up in the morning (before you smell the coffee) and look at yourself in the mirror and say "I am amazing and I will not give up." Build a list of positive affirmations and say them out loud every morning and watch the magic unfold.
Rule #3:: Refine the process
We often jump to conclusions by labelling our goals too big or simply impossible. Upon joining the Self Mastery Program, at least half of my clients struggle with goal attainment. However, the secret sauce is embedded in the process that leads to conquering the desired outcome.
If the plan doesn't work, change the plan, not the goal.
Let your goals be - they test your resilience and commitment to defining "how bad you want it." I find a good number of you want to browse books and videos to learn the "real" secret to achieving your goals. It is simple. Break down your goal into daily actionable wins whilst defining your triggers and motivation which directly link to the daily actions that eventually get you there. The result is always a by-product of the process.
Never has there been a secret to living a life that is easy and successful. However, these rules to live by will help you live an intentional and fulfilled life. That pathway is defined and executed by you - so do not spend time with the curse of comparison - instead, invest that time in yourself to achieve what you desire. That is what I endeavour in my life.
This article was originally published here by Nabeel H, Fuzu’s Career Coach.
